Playing it cool while dating
Here’s some tips on how to play it cool with a guy you like!
The first instinct you will have is to get yourself more involved in their life, turn up at their favourite bars, have a sudden interest in their hobbies, like EVERYTHING they post on social media.
Well, if you ask relationship experts, most will say nothing good comes from taking such a passive stance, or acting like you don't give a damn.
They all seem to agree there's a healthy middle path — where you're not too needy or too chill — when it comes to scoring dates, winning people over, and cultivating relationships."Women who play the 'chill girl' are hoping that if they wait around long enough, they might get noticed," marriage counselor and relationship coach Samantha Burns tells Bustle.
Just like it’s hard for a guy to drum up the courage to approach you and risk rejection, it’s equally scary for you to put yourself “out there” and not get anything in return.
Here’s what I want you to do: for the next week, go out into the world and behave AS IF every man you meet will likely turn out to be a good guy…even your Mr. That means that instead of playing it safe, you become curious and genuinely interested in the men you come in contact with.
Guys don’t need to know your darkest secrets seconds into knowing you, where is the fun there?
Don’t be at his beckon call: take an hour to text him back, have plans when he wants to hang (provide another potential hangout time), go out with the girls for a night.
Make sure he knows he needs to book you in advance and night just take for granted that you will coming running when he calls.
Which is fair enough protecting what’s yours, problem is he isn’t yours… If you show him that you are a psycho before he gets to know the chilled version of you it’s going to ruin everything.
Don’t keep bombarding him with texts, make sure he is the first one to message you once in a while.