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And if you’re not achieving everything, then why are you even here?
Asian women in particular feel the need to prove themselves.
“Don’t you dare go back to that doctor,” my mother growled into the phone. We were a lively, loud, tight-knit group consisting of around 20 blood relatives and 3 million non-blood relatives. Distant family members inquired about school, commented on my weight, and asked if I had a boyfriend.
Another study carried out in 2011 showed that Asian Americans typically avoid mental health services because “opting to utilize such services requires admitting the existence of a mental health problem and may cause shame to the family if personal issues become public.” For the first 27 years of my life, I kept my deteriorating mental health under lock and key for one straightforward reason: I was scared of embarrassing my mother.There’s an expectation to stand out for the “right” reasons — meaning good grades, a fancy job, high salary, good social standing, and having a husband or wife.In my family’s minds, having a mental illness can prevent you from achieving those things.On top of all of that, we’re pressured by society (and Chinese culture) to start a family at a much younger age than men, meaning we’re on a shorter timeline to achieve anything.No wonder Asian-American women have a higher lifetime rate of suicidal thoughts than the general population. I didn’t think it was a problem: I assumed it was normal to feel low and isolated for long periods of time.