Dating in a open marriage
Last month, I was planning to spend the night at my boyfriend’s house while his partner was out of town with one of her other partners.
The getaway got canceled due to a last-minute illness, leaving me and A.
The day-to-day realities of a polyamorous relationship are much like the day-to-day realities of a monogamous one: trying to balance commitments and priorities, making plans for the future and for Friday night, supporting each other through the ups and downs.
Having been on both sides of the fence, I know that in my case a polyamorous relationship involves more frequent and franker communication about my needs as well as a concentrated effort to not take either of my relationships for granted when life gets stressful. Trying to make a decent income as a freelance writer is more work than sticking with my stable job in the legal field.
But for me, the fulfilment I get from polyamory and freelancing are worth the extra effort — and I have two men who love me that are cheering me on.
“Non-monogamy is way more common than most people think,” says Ava from Texas, “But it’s rarely discussed in public.” So, I recently spoke to three women about their open marriages — the pros, the cons, and how they make it work. Catherine, 30, lives with her husband in Pennsylvania.
The amount of money we spend on our other relationships has never been an issue, probably because neither of us spends all that much.
Once the dates are on the calendar, then we need to figure out where everyone is hanging out so that all parties involved get the privacy they need.Long-term, I’m trying to transition to more copywriting work to increase my freelancing income, as well as taking on editing work.My husband has been very supportive of my career change — he’d rather have me do something that I’m passionate about (even if I make much less money) than stay in a job that made me miserable.We expected to have emotional growing pains as feelings came up that we hadn’t anticipated.But neither of us was prepared for how complicated our lives would become from a scheduling perspective.