Dating emotionally damaged women
[Read: The consequences of making someone a priority when you’re only an option to them] And then, it happens again. And finally, it reaches a point where you feel suffocated and weak, and don’t even know why you’re feeling so helpless. Emotional abuse is any kind of psychological abuse that traumatizes a person’s mind or their state of being, forcing them to feel weak, traumatized and helpless.You may feel moments of emotional abuse now and then in your own relationships with the people around you, be it with your parents, siblings, friends or even your romantic partner.If the change is gradual, and you choose not to see the changes, you may never ever realize it.And even if you’re being emotionally abused, you may never see the signs. There’s a point in the relationship where your partner does something that mentally disturbs you, and yet, you choose to overlook it because of the love you have for them.This is a sad reality for so many women, and probably also some men out there; it’s a rough reality. My fear for these women is that their fear of being hurt again is inhibiting them from seeing the one person who could be truly special for them. It’s common - too common amongst women of Generation-Y between the ages of 20 and 30, unfortunately.
They won’t give into their feelings, release their inhibitions and immerse themselves in a relationship because of the fear of being hurt again, as they were in the past.
To quote her, “To reach this broken point, takes years of running and being in things that aren’t 100 percent right.”What hurts the most about that statement is her follow-up, saying that because of her past, she won’t get into relationships and must always maintain control when talking to a guy. When you lose it, you lose your perceived upper hand in a relationship.
The real problem there is that you are inhibiting yourself from maintaining, and flourishing, in a relationship.
But if you place a frog in a pot of tepid water and start to boil the water very slowly, the frog would continue to stay in the pot of water until it boils to death.
Now this may be a metaphor to prove a cautionary tale about change and our inability to see the signs.