Dating a person with herpes
But for some, the stigma around herpes can be worse than any of the actual symptoms.
While practicing safe sex is crucial, condoms are not foolproof methods (condoms can break, the virus can be on skin around the genital area, people may not know they have it, etc.).
“But, personally, the partners I have disclosed to in the past always empathized with the vulnerable position I put myself in, because I prioritized their consent over my pleasure.
In one case in particular, that heartfelt moment and mutual respect even boosted the connection we felt toward each other.” So what does the conversation actually look like?
However, most people don't have symptoms, and may not even know they have herpes.
If you're worried about getting infected, you can take some simple precautions to lower your chances, such as avoiding contact with cold sores.
”“I’ve had the herpes virus for about 15 months now.
I’ve had some partners flat-out reject me in anger, others ghost, and a couple have spilled intimate secrets in response to my vulnerability.
Vulnerability is incredibly difficult — especially when the very thing you are exposing is something that brings up feelings of shame and self-hatred.
But, when getting to know a new partner, revealing your STI status isn’t as simple as revealing your favorite place to grab dinner.
In fact, in a recent Bustle Trends Group survey of 226 women ages 18 to 34, one participant said, “It’s hard to admit to having had an STI, there’s so many gross assumptions about promiscuity and uncleanliness.” As another respondent put it, “Women are seen as less sexual beings in society which keeps us from being able to talk about issues without some form of shaming from others.” Sadly, the more women with herpes feel shamed, the more the cycle of stigmatizing the STI continues, and the harder it may be to tell a sexual partner you have herpes.
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