Chinese dating rituals
This pressure is particularly acute for women, who can be called “left-over women” if they pass the age of 26 or 27 without finding a husband.
Men can find themselves similarly left-over if they wait too long to get married.
That’s why if you’re dating someone who is Chinese, it’s very important you make a good first impression with the parents!
In general, sex before marriage in China is less common and considered more serious than it is in many Western cultures.
This is a big part of why dating is often taken so seriously.
Chinese young people often feel like they don’t have the time to “play the field” that their Western counterparts are afforded by society.
Young Chinese adults are often under a lot of pressure from the elders in their family to find a good husband or wife and get married relatively early.
The actual experience of dating in China can also be somewhat different.
For example, you’ll often see Chinese couples wearing matching outfits, which is almost unheard of in the West.
Many Chinese couples do not share the Western expectation that two people dating will maintain their own separate social lives and friend circles.
Of course, these are all just generalizations, and they don’t apply to all Chinese people.