Boards ie online dating thread
Plus – as many people will no doubt rush to point out in the comments – they would rather be with the scintillating (if less classically handsome) Jonah Hill or the talented Steve Buscemi than Mr.Tatum, no matter how good he looks shirtless and buttered up like an ear of corn…Because they’re good looking, they’re seen as being more trustworthy, kinder and smarter – all very attractive traits to have.And by virtue of being more attractive, they tend to have more attractive girlfriends and wives – after all, people tend to date other people at their “level” of attractiveness, no?In a related study of approximately 350 heterosexual individuals, we collected these same measures in networks of opposite-sex friends, acquaintances and partners.Among these well-acquainted individuals, consensus on measures of mate value was nearly zero. So why is it that people who may not necessarily push our buttons right off the bat become much more attractive to us? This is because of a psychological quirk that marketers have long exploited: the Exposure Effect.For example: people would generally agree that Channing Tatum is a good-looking, charming guy for a potato.Jonah Hill is somewhat less so while Steve Buscemi is considerably less physically attractive.
If someone things you’re cool however, getting to know you over time, building attraction, makes them much more likely to be interested.
There’s a lot of debate about building attraction when it comes to dating.
One of the perennial debates is whether looks make a bigger difference than, say, one’s personality. Star Trek debates as both sides try to convince the rest of the world that the other are shallow homonculi or people deluding themselves about their chances. It’s a generally accepted truth that people who are conventionally physically attractive have an advantage when it comes to dating.
which is precisely where that “uniqueness” factor comes in.
Someone – many people, really – may think that Channing Tatum is good looking but dull as a brick, while Jonah Hill can consistently make her laugh and feel good about herself.