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He added that his White friends would not rule out dating us, but that he warned them they would have trouble handling a Black woman.Having Black men reinforce these stereotypes makes dating harder for us. A conversation I had with my friend Ally last week summarises the confusion among my girlfriends: ‘‘I want a man I connect with on every level, and I don’t care about their colour, but I’m just having no luck, I feel like I’ve been single forever!Even more so, 50 percent of Caribbean origin children have one White parent.I should also add here that Black people of African descent buck this trend slightly, and there appear to be more of them dating within their ethnic group.But things are thankfully changing for Black women.It is now estimated that 48 percent of Black Caribbean men and 34 percent of Black Caribbean women are in mixed-race relationships in the UK.I’d like to note here that I don’t live in London, and so the dating experiences of Black women there may be different to those who live outside the capital.I live in a fairly large city, Bristol, and seeing White women with Black men is just as common as seeing White men with White women.
We are young women open to dating other races, but being open doesn’t necessarily make finding a partner any easier. We’re tired of reading articles that tell us to widen our options as educated women and date men outside our race, because we are attempting this and it is making no difference.
However, the proportion of Black men in the UK dating non-Black women eclipses that of Black women doing the same.
Their reasons for not dating Black women echo the ubiquitous ‘’they have horrible hair and a bad attitude’’ or ‘‘I’m simply not attracted to them’’.
It seems that many Black women feel that it is our responsibility to preserve the Black community. Surely, a shared connection, chemistry and interests (which is so hard to find) are more important than having to explain to a man how a weave is sown in?
After realising that White men probably won’t walk up to me in the street and ask for a date, I tried internet dating on and off for a couple of years, and admittedly over 90% of the emails I received were from White men.